tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post7818885852225355834..comments2010-12-27T04:24:45.681-08:00Comments on Girl Lives Life: What I wroteUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post-85089781576671325532010-01-14T13:33:59.831-08:002010-01-14T13:33:59.831-08:00I'm not sure that I have any advice for you, e...I'm not sure that I have any advice for you, except to say that I understand. Back when JD and I were dating, my parents called me after 2 different visits to tell me that they thought he was horrible and mentally abusive to me, and certainly not good enough for me (My parents tend to beat around the bush and JD tends to be very straight forward, which doesn't go over well) :( It was crushing, as you know, and really shook me - I started overanalyzing everything, and I'm still VERY cautious about saying anything bad about JD to anyone. <br /><br />Anyways, while it changed my relationship with my family, and greatly damaged JD's relationship with my family (which was already damaged because of the issues that I have from them), I still love them, and they celebrated my engagement and wedding and were happy for me. It added to the stress, but things worked out.<br /><br />And, I am happy to help you with ANYTHING for your wedding! :-)Liz Stornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05498565260866071679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post-83367765249512485022010-01-14T09:13:20.291-08:002010-01-14T09:13:20.291-08:00Holy crap. I have so much to say about this.
Fir...Holy crap. I have so much to say about this. <br /><br />First point: You just don't do this. When a friend picks a partner and commits to them, you do not tell them that you don't believe in their worth as a partner. Totally unacceptable. I have all sorts of opinions about my friends choice of partners, and I'm happy to gripe to Brad about them. But that's it - the rest is none of my business. If he were hurting you, abusing you, mistreating you - this would be different. But saying 'I think he's not good enough for you'? All that does is hurt, especially when you know he's good enough (and more!) for you. And now you know, forever, what this dear friend thinks of G. Asking you to forget is just silly. You obviously can't. Nor should you. <br /><br />Second. G, not good enough? This kind, caring, smart, funny guy? This guy loves you, takes care of you, takes care of himself and his home. He has a kind and loving family? A career that he loves and works his ass off for? Financial stability and non-idoiocy? Obviously stupid in love with you and clearly willing to work to build a mature, adult relationship? I mean, obviously, I'm biased, and I think that G is freaking fantastic. But come on! Anyone who doesn't think that guy is good enough is missing some of the facts. A lot of them. <br /><br />Third. People have real trouble with issues. I think it's immaturity, honestly. Any marriage/ltr is going to be imperfect - someone won't always be on their best behavior, someone will need help with their big problems, someone will disconnect and need help reconnecting. Obviously, some problems are unfixable. But a lack of willingness to at least attempt to work through problems big and small shows a lack of understanding of adult relationships, imho. I am not always perfect. Neither is Brad. We make do. You and G will have more trouble down the road, and like adults, you'll work your butts off and overcome it. This is how adults work. It's ok. <br /><br />Clearly I could write a novel here. I am just horrified that such a close friend of yours would do you such wrong.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03433450887950106044noreply@blogger.com