tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post2171448768167383301..comments2010-12-27T04:24:45.681-08:00Comments on Girl Lives Life: Things Were Simpler Back Then Right?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post-89222630793845326152010-02-07T17:26:09.952-08:002010-02-07T17:26:09.952-08:00Cindy,
I just didn't want to spew venom whil...Cindy,<br /> I just didn't want to spew venom while I was stil feeling so wounded for fear of turning the post into a "how much my big brother sucks" themed post. That said, how do you deal with this stuff? How does your family (parents) deal with your lack of relationship? Did you feel conflicted about inviting him? I feel like as it stands right now I don't want to invite him. I feel like a wedding invite is a privlage (I have always felt honored to be invited to weddings as I think they are super special) and if he can't even muster up an email of "congrats" then why bother you know? I feel like an ass though and do not want to hurt my mom but I really don't want to hurt myself either and I don't quite know how to give up my desire for him to be a better brother.Karunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14883810777045952246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post-10285981514622642362010-02-07T09:53:37.824-08:002010-02-07T09:53:37.824-08:00We HAD to invite family. We just HAD to, and, you ...We HAD to invite family. We just HAD to, and, you know what? Only 20 family members showed up (out of the 70 that were invited) but every single one of our friends did (we had 80 friends there, yeah, our wedding was kind of big). We even had a few empty "sorry, couldn't make it because of the weather" last minute family-not-coming so we asked some friends to fill the seats. Much to my mother's horror and our friends' delight. We said, "No gifts, just come, eat, and drink."<br /><br />Parents feel so obligated about stuff but if mine cared so much than they would have invited a family member of ours who is certifiably insane and not worry about people thinking, "He's crazy and associated with us." <br /><br />Someone's feelings always get hurt. Not much you can do about that. I can't even being to tell you how many calls I got pre and post wedding from people who were like, "I can't believe you didn't ask me to be in your wedding" or "why am I not invited?"<br /><br />All in all, planning sucks but the party is a good time and I think totally worth it.<br /><br />On the older brother topic, tell me about it. My brother and I don't speak except at family functions and it's usually just "Hello." I have no qualms about saying negative things about him though, but that's just me.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02485844635025821292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5680860269890324897.post-66908521174761420022010-02-07T08:42:31.536-08:002010-02-07T08:42:31.536-08:00Weeeelll, our wedding was only 14% family members ...Weeeelll, our wedding was only 14% family members present. We were lucky in that we have particularly understanding family, but still, no one raised a fuss about who was or wasn't invited. I hope everyone can be as understanding of your choices!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com